July 28, 2016

Transcript for Your Life is a Poem

MS. NAOMI SHIHAB NYE: Very rarely do you hear anyone say they write things down and feel worse. It’s an act that helps you, preserves you, energizes you, in the very doing of it.

KRISTA TIPPETT, HOST: “You are living in a poem.” This is how the poet Naomi Shihab Nye sees the world, and she teaches how this way of being and writing is possible. She has engaged the real-world power of words since her upbringing between her father’s Palestinian homeland and Ferguson, Missouri, near where her American mother grew up. Her father was a refugee journalist, and she carries forward his hopeful passion, his insistence, that language must be a way out of cycles of animosity. A poem she wrote called “Kindness,” is carried around in the pockets and memories of readers around the world.

MS. SHIHAB NYE:

“Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,
you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing.
You must wake up with sorrow.
You must speak to it till your voice
catches the thread of all sorrows
and you see the size of the cloth.
Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore,
only kindness that ties your shoes
and sends you out into the day to gaze at bread,
only kindness that raises its head
from the crowd of the world to say
It is I you have been looking for,
and then goes with you everywhere
like a shadow or a friend.”

[music: “Seven League Boots” by Zoe Keating]

MS. TIPPETT: I’m Krista Tippett, and this is On Being.

Naomi Shihab Nye calls herself a wandering poet. Growing up, she lived in Ferguson and on the road between Ramallah and Jerusalem. And now, she lives in San Antonio, Texas.

MS. TIPPETT: I always start my interviews by inquiring about the religious or spiritual background of someone’s childhood. And I just wonder where you’d start reflecting on what that was in your life.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Well, I felt very lucky as a child to have open-minded parents. And I knew they were open-minded because they were unlike any other parents I met, my friends’ parents. I also knew that they didn’t practice the religions of their upbringings, either one of them. So, this fascinated me as even a little child. And I would ask a lot of questions. There was no sense of a taboo subject. My father had not really had a difficult time telling his family that he didn’t want to practice Islam.

He said, “I will respect it, but I don’t want to practice it.” And they had accepted that. My mother’s family, on the other hand, had been more hard-hearted about her rejection of their German Lutheran Missouri Synod background. But this was something both of my parents could talk about with each other and with their children, that people are raised in all kinds of different ways, and if it doesn’t feel meaningful to you, maybe you have to search more. You have to keep searching. And I was a religion major in college simply because...

MS. TIPPETT: [laughs] Of course you were.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah. Because of my appetite for this topic.

MS. TIPPETT: That’s right.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: And I was fascinated to study more about Zen Buddhism, which appealed to me very much from the beginning.

MS. TIPPETT: And it seems like you became a writer at a very young age, right? You were like 7, 6, 5 — 6, 7?

MS. SHIHAB NYE: I was 6 when I started writing my own poems and 7 when I started sending them out. And just today, some students I was talking to in a Skype class in Kuwait — how much I love the modern world that we can do these things. I was with these students for two hours, and I feel like I’m going to think about them for the rest of my life. But one young man asked me, “How were you brave enough to do that? What gave you the confidence?” He said, “I’ve been trying to run a publication here at our university campus, and I can’t get my friends to give me their writing. They’re not brave enough. What gave you confidence?”

And I think just having that sense of voice. Well, other people have done it. That’s what we do. If you know words, if you compose, you might want to share them because they’ll have a bigger life if you do that. So, I certainly wasn’t thinking about a career. I just thought of myself as having a practice, you know? If you have a practice of writing, then you have a lot of pieces of paper on your desk, and you can share them if you chose to. And it seemed more exciting or illuminating to share them and see what happened next than to just keep them for myself.

MS. TIPPETT: Well, so — I’m very interested in general in this question of what poetry works in us. But I think even that question itself holds the implication that poetry is something separate, something distinct. But it seems that, in your sensibility, you see it as very organic. I mean, there’s — I think it was in some of your writing for poems by children, you said, “I do think that all of us think in poems.”

MS. SHIHAB NYE: I do. I do think that. And I think that is very important, not feeling separate from text, feeling sort of your thoughts as text or the world as it passes through you as a kind of text. The story that you would be telling to yourself about the street, even as you walk down it, or as you drive down it, as you look out the window, the story you would be telling — it always seemed very much to me, as a child, that I was living in a poem, that my life was the poem. And in fact, at this late date, I have started putting that on the board of any room I walk into that has a board.

I just came back from Japan a month ago, and in every classroom, I would just write on the board, “You are living in a poem.” And then I would write other things just relating to whatever we were doing in that class. But I found the students very intrigued by discussing that. “What do you mean, we’re living in a poem?” Or, “When? All the time, or just when someone talks about poetry?” And I’d say, “No, when you think, when you’re in a very quiet place, when you’re remembering, when you’re savoring an image, when you’re allowing your mind calmly to leap from one thought to another, that’s a poem. That’s what a poem does.” And they liked that.

And a girl, in fact, wrote me a note in Yokohama on the day that I was leaving her school that has come to be the most significant note any student has written me in years. She said, “Well, here in Japan, we have a concept called ‘yutori.’” And it is spaciousness. It’s a kind of living with spaciousness. For example, it’s leaving early enough to get somewhere so that you know you’re going to arrive early, so when you get there, you have time to look around. Or — and then she gave all these different definitions of what yutori was to her.

But one of them was — and after you read a poem just knowing you can hold it, you can be in that space of the poem. And it can hold you in its space. And you don’t have to explain it. You don’t have to paraphrase it. You just hold it, and it allows you to see differently. And I just love that. I mean, I think that’s what I’ve been trying to say all these years. I should have studied Japanese. [laughs] Maybe that’s where all our answers are. In Japanese.

MS. TIPPETT: Well, so — I do also think about your Arabic ancestry and the reverence for poetry that is in those cultures.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yes.

MS. TIPPETT: And you talk a lot about your father and his reverence for just the power of words and language. And here’s a way you, I feel, have appropriated that: you say poetry is a form of conversation. And it seems to me that a lot of your poems are — can I say — holding a conversation, or opening conversations that aren’t actually happening out there in the culture or in the narrative of kind of how we’re telling the story of our time.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: I hope so, Krista. I really hope that is true. And I think that the essence of a kind of exchange is what poetry is interested in too. I mean, the feeling that you’re not battered by thought in a poem, but you are sort of as if you’re riding the wave of thought, as if you’re allowing thought to enter. You’re shifting. You’re changing. You’re looking. You are in a sensibility that allows you that sort of mental, emotional, spiritual interaction with everything around you.

I think it’s very, very helpful for mental health, actually. I mean, I really wonder sometimes what it would be like to live without that apprehension — that you could have a thought, shape a thought, change a thought, look at the words in a thought. That you could take a word and just sort of use that word — I think I’ve said this is 40 years ago in a poem — use a single word as an oar that could get you through the days just by holding a word, thinking about it differently, and seeing how that word rubs against other words, how it interplays with other words. There’s a luxury in that kind of thinking about language and text, but it’s very basic as well. I mean, it’s simple, it’s invisible, it doesn’t cost anything.

MS. TIPPETT: Yeah. So, there’s 19 Varieties of Gazelle. Was this published after...

MS. SHIHAB NYE: It was published after September 11, but some of the poems in it preceded September 11. But the poems that related to the Middle East had been sort of scattered throughout my work. Some were in magazines, never had been in a book. But I felt, at that moment, maybe it was important to gather them together.

MS. TIPPETT: I mean, just the last — I think these are the final lines or almost — no — yes, before the postscript, the final stanza of the last poem.

“I call my father, we talk around the news
It is too much for him,
neither of his two languages can reach it.
I drive into the country to find sheep, cows,
to plead with the air:
Who calls anyone civilized?
Where can the crying heart graze?
What does a true Arab do now?”

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Right.

MS. TIPPETT: I imagine that question, by way of poetry, “What does a true Arab do now?” — that’s a question that’s been out there, I imagine, in our culture for Arab Americans. It’s this question that we’re dwelling with, all of us collectively, but especially people of that identity.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: And especially people who cherish an awareness of another culture, whoever they are. And I think that’s — it’s so strangely appealing these days to large numbers of people — I don’t know who they are, I don’t understand where they’re coming from — to not to respect someone else’s culture if it doesn’t look just like yours. And that’s exactly the opposite of the way that I grew up and the way I like to think about the world and the way I feel like the majority of people would prefer to think about the world.

MS. TIPPETT: Yes.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: The minute you place yourself above, what does that do to others? So yes, I am horrified by the ease with which people may belittle one another these days, as if that were a reasonable thing to do.

[music: “The Swimmer” by Phil France]

MS. TIPPETT: I’m Krista Tippett, and this is On Being. Today, I’m with the poet Naomi Shihab Nye.

MS. TIPPETT: You also have this fascinating perspective of having — OK, let me get this right. Your father — you mostly grew up in Ferguson, Missouri, which is where your father...

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah, I did. It’s crazy, right? Nobody had ever heard of it either.

MS. TIPPETT: His family emigrated eventually.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah.

MS. TIPPETT: And so, how long were you there? Until you were 12 or...?

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Well, I lived in Ferguson until I was 14.

MS. TIPPETT: 14.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yes. And I was born in Greater St. Louis, my mother’s home place. My parents met in Kansas, but they moved out to Ferguson because it was sort of a little bedroom community to Downtown St. Louis where my mother had grown up. And it had big trees, and kids could go off on their bikes and ride around all day, and there was more a rural quality to Ferguson.

It’s a wonderful little community, but there was a sense of separation, of course, in the '50s and early '60s that is what we’ve seen the fruits of that come to be over the years. And to think that Ferguson is now a household word representing injustice is really shocking to those of us who grew up there.

MS. TIPPETT: But when you wrote this wonderful piece about growing up in Ferguson, and then your family immigrated back to Palestine in 1966 for a little while.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Right.

MS. TIPPETT: And the echoes between those two places that you called home, the echoes between those two places and their separated communities.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Right. That was a fascinating parallel. And so I couldn’t resist writing that piece, just meditating on both places when they were in flames that same summer. And the sorrow of injustice was very alive in both of them.

MS. TIPPETT: In 2014. Yeah.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: And the power struggles in both places. And I kept wishing my father were alive because I thought he would never believe that Ferguson has come into the international eye in this way. At the same time as the people of Palestine are also continuing to struggle.

So, it’s mysterious how these power structures unfold, isn’t it? And how we’re willing to accept them and allow them to prevail without questioning them. And something I’ve started saying over the past few years that kind of helped me think about it is — I have so many Jewish friends both in the United States and other countries who would agree with this — but the idea that there could not be a sort of alliance between big power countries like the United States and Israel/Palestine that was more equivalent. Why do you have to have only one friend in the region? That’s like the dark side of junior high.

MS. TIPPETT: [laughs]

MS. SHIHAB NYE: In junior high, you learned that you could probably have two friends that are not exactly alike, and you might survive. And in fact, you’d be a much more interesting person. Why couldn’t the United States have two friends? Why couldn’t they ask better questions? My father was always saddened by the imbalance. And as a journalist, he had to report on it so many times.

MS. TIPPETT: Yes. And yet, you always write about your father insisting on hope to the end.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah.

MS. TIPPETT: Fiercely hopeful.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah, because he said, “What else do we have?” I mean, if we’re just going to give up and say, “OK, we crumple. We have no more hope. We’re victims. We’re bitter.” How much fun of a life is that going to be for anyone? For our children, you can’t pass that down. He maintained a joyousness, despite.

MS. TIPPETT: But here’s another way you’ve written about what I feel is kind of a philosophy behind your poetry. And you wrote this, again, about in the aftermath of September 11, but it applies to all these kinds of examples we’ve been talking about. You said this sense so many people had that “everything has changed.” And you wrote of the necessity of really questioning and interrogating that feeling. And you wrote, “We can continue to remind ourselves of what is important and try to live in ways nourishing for human beings and continue to nourish our ability to grow in our perceptions to more than we used to know, to empathize with distant situations and sorrows and joys.” That doesn’t have to change.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Right.

MS. TIPPETT: I have felt so much that that was the great lost opportunity of 2001, of September 11, for Americans who had momentarily had an experience of what so many people around the world have all the time of...

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Right. There are just so many mysteries about people wanting to presume their pain has more of a reality than someone else’s pain. And you know, I think all the holy persons of all backgrounds and faiths have always called upon us to empathize in a more profound way, to stretch our imaginations to what that other person might be experiencing. And it sounds so basic, but these days, when you listen to the loud voices you wonder, “What’s happened to that? What’s happened to the awareness that we don’t have to be vindictive and continue on in a cycle of revenge and violence?” And every time Yoko Ono pays to have that full page in the New York Times, the ”War is Over” page, I’m fascinated by that.

MS. TIPPETT: [laughs] I know.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: I mean, I’d love to hear her talk about why she continues to do this because we so much wish it were true. We’d like to be able to say, “Yes, it’s true.” I actually kept that postcard that said ”War is Over” in that same font on my wall for years because I so much wanted to believe it. And yet, you look at the world, and it’s not true. And you think, “Is this just manifest positive thinking?”

MS. TIPPETT: Well, OK. But so, here’s what I think your contribution is. I mean, you look at the world in terms of headlines, and it’s — you look at the world a certain way, and it’s not true from a certain angle, from a certain direction. It seems to me like one of the things you — again, like, what is poetry? What’s poetry’s place? I mean, it seems like one of the things you draw out is just noticing.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah.

MS. TIPPETT: Paying a different kind of attention to things that are not quite as apparent to the eye. I mean, starting with — I love this — the poem — and what book was it in? “Please Describe How You Became A Writer.” Oh.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Right. Yeah.

MS. TIPPETT: Do you know that? Do you have it by heart?

MS. SHIHAB NYE: I have it right here. Yes. Would you like me to read it?

MS. TIPPETT: Yes.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: It’s very short. “Please Describe How You Became A Writer”

“Possibly I began writing as a refuge from our insulting first-grade textbook. Come, Jane, come. Look, Dick, look. Were there ever duller people in the world? You had to tell them to look at things? Why weren’t they looking to begin with?”

That was actually written after some students wrote me a survey about being a writer, and that was the first question on their survey. And so I just wrote them that, and I thought, “I like this by itself. This is good.” I mean, it’s true too. Yeah.

MS. TIPPETT: And so, I think you unfold that on different levels. I mean, somewhere you talk about being a 7-year-old poet making petite discoveries. I love that phrase.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah. Oh, thanks.

MS. TIPPETT: And again, like, noticing, right?

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Right. I like the word “petite.”

MS. TIPPETT: Oh, it’s — and there’s a poem you wrote about an onion.

“I could kneel and praise
all small forgotten miracles,
crackly paper peeling on the drainboard,
pearly layers in smooth agreement,
the way the knife enters onion
and onion falls apart on the chopping block,
a history revealed.”

I mean, this is a way — again, we’re talking about poetry, but we’re also talking about a way of moving through the world.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Mm. Thank you for noticing that. But I think of something in an essay from William Merwin. And he’s lived in many places in his life. He lived in France, England, Mexico, Pennsylvania as a child. But he has a line where he says, “I learned from my neighbors everything they would tell me.” And I think that sort of appetite for knowing, that curiosity — “What grows here? What do we need to do? How can we improve this soil?” That’s the way that he lived his whole life. But I think that’s what poetry does for our places wherever we are. It allows us to cherish what we’re given.

[music: “Interlude 2” by Harlem String Quartet & Douglas Kinney Frost]

MS. SHIHAB NYE: “Two Countries.”

“Skin remembers how long the years grow
when skin is not touched, a gray tunnel
of singleness, feather lost from the tail
of a bird, swirling onto a step,
swept away by someone who never saw
it was a feather. Skin ate, walked,
slept by itself, knew how to raise a
see-you-later hand. But skin felt
it was never seen, never known as
a land on the map, nose like a city,
hip like a city, gleaming dome of the mosque
and the hundred corridors of cinnamon and rope.

Skin had hope, that’s what skin does.
Heals over the scarred place, makes a road.
Love means you breathe in two countries.
And skin remembers--silk, spiny grass,
deep in the pocket that is skin’s secret own.
Even now, when skin is not alone,
it remembers being alone and thanks something larger
that there are travelers, that people go places
larger than themselves.”

[music: “Falling” by David Randall]

MS. TIPPETT: You can listen again and share this conversation with Naomi Shihab Nye through our website, onbeing.org.

I’m Krista Tippett. On Being continues in a moment.

[music: “Falling” by David Randall]

MS. TIPPETT: I’m Krista Tippett, and this is On Being. Today, I’m with the “wandering poet” Naomi Shihab Nye.

MS. TIPPETT: I know your poem “Kindness” has been really important for many people. It’s interesting that — would you kind of tell it? Because the backstory to that poem doesn’t sound like the circumstances under which you would write a poem about kindness.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Right.

MS. TIPPETT: And so, I’d love for you to just tell that story, and then maybe read it also.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Well, I really feel, amongst all my poems, that this was a poem that was given to me. I was simply the secretary for the poem. I wrote it down, but I honestly felt as if it were a female voice speaking in the air across a plaza in Popayan, Colombia. And my husband and I were on our honeymoon. We had just gotten married one week before here in Texas.

And we had this plan to travel in South America for three months. And at the end of our first week, we were robbed of everything. And someone else who was on the bus with us was killed, and he’s the Indian in the poem. And it was quite a shake-up of an experience. And what do you do now? We didn’t have passports. We didn’t have money. We didn’t have anything. What do we do first? Where do we go? Who do we talk to? And a man came up to us on the street and was simply kind and just looked at us, I guess could see our disarray in our faces.

And just asked us in Spanish, “What happened to you?” And we tried to tell him. And he listened to us, and he looked so sad. And he said, “I’m very sorry. I’m very, very sorry that happened,” in Spanish. And he went on. And then we went to this little plaza, and I sat down, and all I had was the notebook in my back pocket and pencil. And my husband was going to hitchhike off to Cali, a larger city, to see about getting traveler’s checks reinstated. Remember those archaic things?

MS. TIPPETT: [laughs] Yes, I do.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Traveler’s checks.

MS. TIPPETT: Vaguely. Yeah.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: I haven’t seen one in years.

MS. TIPPETT: No.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: And so this was also a little worrisome to us because, suddenly, we were going to split up. I was going to stay here, and he was going to go there. And as I sat there alone, in a bit of a panic, night coming on, trying to figure out what I was going to do next, this voice came across the plaza and spoke this poem to me, spoke it. And I wrote it down.

MS. TIPPETT: [laughs] Wow.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: I was just the scribe. So, did you want me to read it?

MS. TIPPETT: Yes, I’d love for you to read it.

MS. SHIHAB NYE:

“Before you know what kindness really is
you must lose things,
feel the future dissolve in a moment
like salt in a weakened broth.
What you held in your hand,
what you counted and carefully saved,
all this must go so you know
how desolate the landscape can be
between the regions of kindness.
How you ride and ride
thinking the bus will never stop,
the passengers eating maize and chicken
will stare out the window forever.

Before you learn the tender gravity of kindness
you must travel where the Indian in a white poncho
lies dead by the side of the road.
You must see how this could be you,
how he too was someone
who journeyed through the night with plans
and the simple breath that kept him alive.

Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,
you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing.
You must wake up with sorrow.
You must speak to it till your voice
catches the thread of all sorrows
and you see the size of the cloth.
Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore,
only kindness that ties your shoes
and sends you out into the day to gaze at bread,
only kindness that raises its head
from the crowd of the world to say
It is I you have been looking for,
and then goes with you everywhere
like a shadow or a friend.”

One thing I’ve tried to say to groups over the years, groups of all ages, is that writing things down, whatever you’re writing down, even if you’re writing something sad or hard, usually you feel better after you do it. Somehow, you’re given a sense of, “OK, this mood, this sorrow I’m feeling, this trouble I’m in, I’ve given it shape. It’s got a shape on the page now. So I can stand back, I can look at it, I can think about it a little differently. What do I do now?” And very rarely do you hear anyone say they write things down and feel worse.

They always say, “I wrote things down. This isn’t quite finished. I need to work on it.” But they agree that it helped them sort of see their experience, see what they were living. And that’s definitely a gift of writing that is above and beyond any sort of vocational — how much somebody publishes. It’s an act that helps you, preserves you, energizes you in the very doing of it.

MS. TIPPETT: And actually, I interviewed Mary Oliver last year. And she said — and by the way, she also described the poem “Wild Geese,” not as a voice coming to her, but basically as something that was just given. She said there are maybe two or three, but that one, she wasn’t even thinking.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah. That’s beautiful. And that poem is so important to so many people.

MS. TIPPETT: Well, like “Kindness,” it’s a poem that saves lives.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Right.

MS. TIPPETT: It’s a poem that saves lives.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: It’s a poem that becomes like an emblem poem for people. Right. It is. Yeah.

MS. TIPPETT: And — but she always carries a notebook, right? I mean, that’s one of her trademarks. And she said to me, “If you don’t have a notebook, you don’t get it again. You have to write things down as they come to you.”

MS. SHIHAB NYE: That’s right. Absolutely.

MS. TIPPETT: And so I’ve started carrying a notebook again after 20 years.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Well, I think that’s great. And you can carry one at any age, and you’re never too too old to start.

MS. TIPPETT: To start carrying a notebook.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah. Last week, I was in a classroom in Austin, Texas, where a girl, who was apparently going through a really rough spell at home, wrote a poem that was definitely tragic and comic, both, about kind of — everybody was yelling at her in the poem, like, from all directions. She was just kind of suffering in her home place and trying to find peace, trying to find a place to do her homework.

But she wrote this in such a compelling way that when she read it, and read it with gusto and joy — there was such joyousness in her voice even though she was describing something that sounded awful. When she finished, the girls in her classroom just broke into wild applause, and I saw her face. She lit up. And she said, “Man, I feel better.”

MS. TIPPETT: [laughs]

MS. SHIHAB NYE: [laughs] And I thought, yeah, this is such a graphic example of putting words on the page. That feeling of being connected to someone else when you allow yourself to be very particular is another mystery of writing.

[music: “Anything You Synthesize” by The American Dollar]

MS. TIPPETT: I’m Krista Tippett, and this is On Being. Today, I’m with poet Naomi Shihab Nye.

[music: “Anything You Synthesize” by The American Dollar]

MS. TIPPETT: Oh, here’s something. I was just looking at A Maze Me, this book that you did, Poems for Girls, which actually echoes what you just said. You say, “If you have many voices and let them speak to one another in a friendly fashion, if you’re not too proud to talk to yourself out loud, if you will ask the questions pressing against your forehead from the inside, you’ll be OK. If you write three lines down in a notebook every day,” and then in parentheses, “(they don’t have to be great or important, they don’t have to relate to one another, you don’t have to show them to anyone) you will find out what you notice. Uncanny connections will be made visible to you. That’s what I started learning when I was 12, and I never stopped learning it.”

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Right. And I think many people are encouraged to think you could write that little and still gain something from it. That you don’t have to be spending an hour and a half to three hours to five hours a day writing to have a meaningful experience with it. It’s a very immediate experience. You can sit down and write three sentences. How long does that take? Three minutes. Five minutes. And be giving yourself a very rare gift of listening to yourself, just finding out when you go back and look at what you wrote. And how many times we think, “Oh, I would never have remembered that if I hadn’t written it down.”

MS. TIPPETT: Yeah, that’s right.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: “When and how did that even occur to me? I sort of like it this week.”

MS. TIPPETT: [laughs] That’s right.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: “And it could help me. And now I want to connect it to something else.” Everybody finds that out, and just to encourage others to do it without a big massive goal in front of them at all times.

MS. TIPPETT: You’ve said that you read your son to sleep, and you also read him awake.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: I did. Yes.

MS. TIPPETT: So what would you do? You’d go in, and sit by his bed...

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Well, when when he was around 13, he said, “Mom, you don’t have to read to me anymore. I can read for myself.” And I said, “Yeah, I know. All the other parents I know stopped when their kids were like 8.”

MS. TIPPETT: [laughs] Yeah.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: “Or 9. And I’m still reading to you.” But he was sweet and gracious about it. And we did like that reading time at bedtime. And so I paused for a while, maybe a year I wasn’t reading to him. And then this farmer showed up in Oklahoma at a workshop and told us all that he had come just to listen. He just wanted to hear everyone read their work. And we thought, “Wow. Look at this. The wandering audience. He doesn’t even want to participate; he just wants to listen.”

And he said, “No, listening is participation. It’s very important.” And he talked about being a child and being awakened every day by his granddad who read to the kids in the house as a wake-up call every morning, stood in the resonant hallway outside their bedrooms, and read poems. And my brain clicked. I thought, “This is what I’ll do for the rest of the time our son is at home. I’ll waken him every day with reading poems.”

So we did that for years, and I think he really liked it. And people I read a lot, people like Robert Blythe, and Lucille Clifton, Frank O’Hara, for some reason, Chinese poems, Japanese poems. And we would occasionally talk about the poems. Later in the day, he’d bring something up about one of the poems I’d read.

But I never did it so that we could have a particular conversation. I just did it because all parents have a moment in the day when you need to get your kid up if they haven’t gotten up already. And most kids like to loiter in the bed there. So, it was a pleasure to me to hear poems in the air first thing in the morning, be saying them to our beloved son. And hopefully, he’ll do that to his son, who turns one month old tomorrow.

MS. TIPPETT: Wow.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah.

MS. TIPPETT: I like that too because as much as — my kids are also great big now — but as many kind of lovely memories as I have of reading at the end of the day, you’re so tired at the end of the day. And it’s a nice idea to think about reading and poetry starting the day when you’re fresh and when you would take it with you.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: It’s beautiful. It feels beautiful. And you feel better. You, the reader, feel better. And there are also so many other places where this could be appropriate. I met a school principal some years ago, and he said to me, “Oh, I’ve always loved poetry, but I can’t really use it because I’m just a principal.” I said, “What are you talking about? Where’s the intercom in your school?” He said, “It’s in my office.” I said, “OK, well, do you have announcements?"

“Yes. Every morning.” “Well, why don’t you read a poem to start off the day for the entire school?” And I sort of forgot about this encounter with him, and a couple of years later, I went to that school, and I thought, “Wow, I don’t know what’s going on in this school.” I had forgotten that that’s where he was. But these kids loved poetry. And finally one of them said to me, “Well, the announcements, every day. Our principal reads us a poem, so we carry poems with us every day. We have them in our heads.” And one thing interesting was he seemed to have needed a little push since he didn’t see himself as a poet, that it would be OK for him to read a poem. Well, why not? And also, he needed a little push that he didn’t have to read the whole poem. Like, if he wanted to read just a stanza from Ralph Waldo Emerson or just — here’s a stanza from Walt Whitman — that that was OK. You didn’t have to read the entire poem if you didn’t have time. He liked that, but I think he just needed the encouragement.

MS. TIPPETT: Before we draw to a close and also hear some more of your poems, I want to touch a little bit on your father again. Just on this matter of refugees, which is so resonant now in the world in a new, desperate way.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: It is.

MS. TIPPETT: There’s something in me that feels like we’re kind of — it’s happening — especially if you’re in America, it’s happening over there, kind of. But I wonder if when people look back 100 years from now — if we’re still around — at 2016, if this won’t be the thing that was changing the world that’s going to shape the rest of the century.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Whoa.

MS. TIPPETT: Well, first of all, there’s the opening page of Transfer where you’re kind of dedicating the book to your father, the passage that starts “Refugee, not always.”

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yes.

“Refugee
not always
once a confident schoolboy
strolling Jerusalem streets

He knew the alleyways
spoke to stones
All his life he would pick up stones
and pocket them
On some he drew
faces
What do we say in the wake of one
who was always homesick?
Are you home now?
Is Palestine peaceful in some dimension
we can't see?
Do Jews and Arabs share the table?
Is holy in the middle?”

And I think many times the way immigrants — people look at immigrants with such a sense of diminishment, as if this person is less than I am because they’ve left their country. Well, I actually think they’re more than we are because they’re braver. They’ve gone some other place. They have to operate in another language. How easy would that be?

If I had to go to China today and start living in China and doing everything in Chinese, it would be very, very hard. So, you think about the bravery of these people and the desperation with which they’re trying to find a realm of safety for their families and just the basic safeties that we take for granted every day we get up.

And I don’t know how a world with so many resources and so many religious traditions and good hopes, how we can keep doing these things to one another in the world that create refugee populations? I mean, it just seems outrageous. Why is that happening so much?

MS. TIPPETT: Yeah. I think that’s another one of those questions we have to sit with if we can.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah. Right.

MS. TIPPETT: I mean, here’s just some lines from another — the “History” poem in that book Transfer. “We were born to wander, to grieve, lost lineage. What we did to one another on a planet so wide open for doing.”

MS. SHIHAB NYE: So wide open. So much we could do. Always. So many surprising moves a person, a country could make that might be imaginative, that might encourage positive behavior instead of negative. Yeah.

MS. TIPPETT: And I don’t know. Maybe the magnitude of this moment forces us to rise to the occasion. We’ll see. Human beings do that every once in awhile too.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: I hope so. I hope so. And I hope that mysterious rising to one’s better self, which was a concept that really perplexed me as a child. My mother would say, especially if I’d been in some kind of mischief at school, which occasionally happened because I wasn’t always focused on Jack and — whoever those people — Dick and Jane.

MS. TIPPETT: [laughs] Those boring Dick and Jane.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah, the boring Dick and Jane. I was trying to get away from them all the time. And so I would get in a little trouble, and my mother would say to me — her charge to me — “Be your best self.” And I would think, “Wow, what is that self? Where is it? Where is it tucked away? Where do I keep it when I’m not being it? And are you your best self? Is my teacher her best self?”

That was just something intriguing to me that we had more than one self that we could operate out of. And I think one nice thing about writing is that you get to encounter, you get to meet these other selves, which continue on in you: your child self, your older self, your confused self, your self that makes a lot of mistakes. And then find some gracious way to have a community in there inside that would help you survive.

MS. TIPPETT: Yeah, that poetry as conversation. That’s right. Writing is a way of having a conversation between those different selves inside you.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yes. That’s nice. I think so. And that’s a big thing. I mean, that’s not to be underestimated, that it’s important to do that.

MS. TIPPETT: You write about so many places you go, and that the word “gravity” is important to you.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: It is.

MS. TIPPETT: And it seems to me — it’s a big word for you. And it seems to me, it’s often related to a sense of place. I mean, I don’t think it’s always just about place. But how would you — what does that mean in your imagination?

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Well, my father felt like a wanderer, like he was always wandering around. And I always felt like a wanderer, that we have so many places we could explore and learn about. But I think you can feel all kinds of gravity wherever you are every day in different ways. And often, through human contact, you find your best gravity. A real conversation with someone, just a simple, simple exchange of words can give you a sense of gravity. Taking a long — I’ve always loved the definition for contemplation, “a long, loving look.” And when you take a long, loving look anywhere, you feel sort of more bonded with whatever you’ve looked at. You feel as if you recognize it. You see it. Maybe it sees you back. And you’re participating in a world where it exists. And so feeling that sense of gravity and belonging everywhere is very important to me.

MS. TIPPETT: Like claiming it, right? That’s what you do. I think you claim it.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Claiming it. Yeah, a kind of global passport I guess it might be. And this young woman in Kuwait this morning on the Skype class I did — she was saying that she was Palestinian, had never been to Palestine; born in Jordan, had never seen Jordan; was taken to Kuwait as a baby, and raised in Kuwait. Now she was a college senior, and she said, “And I don’t belong to any of these places. And I feel so adrift. And I’m not accepted in any of these places.”

And I said, “My hope for you would be that you could find a way to live, a way to be, a voice to use, where you feel at home in all of them.” And I think there is a way to do that. As readers and writers, we find a certain home in books and language and literature, that — like, I hear a Mary Oliver poem, and it’s as if I’ve been her neighbor because I’ve read so many of her poems, even though I’ve never spent a day in her town.

Maybe one day, some time. But so we abide with one another. We find through images ways to be together. So my hope for that girl was not that she would feel alienated forever from all her places, but that she could find a way to be so much herself and let those parts of herself continue the dialogue through writing or through whatever she chooses to do. But I do think writing would really help in her case. Would help her to feel an identity.

MS. TIPPETT: So, your Palestinian refugee father, you say — and this comes through over and over again — but as you wrote about him, at the end of his life, after he died, you say, “He loved the world. The world frustrated him endlessly, but he loved it and he hoped for it.”

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah.

MS. TIPPETT: There’s this beautiful line, “He never gave up hope. Everything depended on mutual respect. The sadness of my father was a land mass under water.” I wanted to ask you about the substance of hope for you.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Oh. Thank you for asking that. Right now, living in Texas, it’s spring, and everything is bursting forth. I mean, things we had even forgotten we planted, things we don’t remember the derivation of — where did that come from? All these things are popping up and bursting open, and the air smells very sweet with this wonderful tree we have down here called Mountain Laurel.

And there’s kind of an intoxicating feeling of spring opens up, like, all these flowers open their faces to the sky. And then we have the amazing fields and fields and miles and miles of wildflowers in Texas. And just that sense of return, restoration, energy coming back out of the soil. And so I think the gift of daily life, which is our treasure as long as we live, hopefully there are days with all their simple tasks and errands to be fulfilled, but also moments of apprehension that are greater than those tasks and errands, or moments of apprehension that come through those tasks.

And people used to ask me a lot when I was younger, “Why do you write about common things? Normal, like regular little things?” And I said, “Well, what do you have in your life? I mean, I’m not living like in Star Trek. I have common things in my life. What else do I have?” But I don’t think that the things are themselves common. I think it’s a miracle that anything works.

I've been thinking about Flint, Michigan a lot these days. I think about the miracle of plumbing a lot and all the mysteries we don’t see under the soil. The pipes, the wires, the wireless connections now.

I mean, just thinking about everything that’s going on, kind of like when you’re a child fascinated by all the stuff that’s going on inside your body, and you didn’t have to tell it to do that. Like, I used to think my stomach is — I’m digesting right now. I didn’t have to tell it to do that. It just did it. That’s incredible. Or the heart beating, or the blood rolling through the veins.

And you think, wow all this stuff goes on. That’s not commonplace to me. That’s miraculous. It’s amazing. And so writing is a way that we’re continually — continuously restored to that. And reading other people’s work, being restored to that. How could you ever feel too old or too dull in a world like that?

[music: “A Chance Grain of Rye” by Lowercase Noises]

MS. TIPPETT: Naomi Shihab Nye’s books include 19 Varieties of Gazelle, You & Yours, Words Under Words, A Maze Me: Poems for Girls, and Transfer.

[music: “A Chance Grain of Rye” by Lowercase Noises]

MS. TIPPETT: At onbeing.org, you can listen again, read, and download all the poems Naomi Shihab Nye recited this hour, as well as many others with stories attached.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: “Cross That Line” is an important poem to me because I loved Paul Robeson so much as a child. I loved his voice. We had a record of him singing. And I wouldn’t read his biography until I was an adult and know about what he suffered as a so-called communist, and how his passport was taken away from him. And he was not allowed to leave the nation, though he had a huge fan club in Europe and elsewhere. So I thought this was so funny when he did this. And I now own a CD of this concert.

MS. TIPPETT: Oh, really?

MS. SHIHAB NYE: Yeah. Someone sent it to me. I don’t know, some archival recording. Pretty amazing.

MS. TIPPETT: Wow.

MS. SHIHAB NYE: “Cross That Line.”

“Paul Robeson stood
on the northern border
of the USA
and sang into Canada
where a vast audience
sat on folding chairs
waiting to hear him.

He sang into Canada.
His voice left the USA
when his body was
not allowed to cross
that line.

Remind us again,
brave friend.
What countries may we
sing into?
What lines should we all
be crossing?
What songs travel toward us
from far away
to deepen our days?”

[music: “A Chance Grain of Rye” by Lowercase Noises]

STAFF: On Being is Trent Gilliss, Chris Heagle, Lily Percy, Mariah Helgeson, Maia Tarrell, Annie Parsons, Marie Sambilay, Aseel Zahran, Bethanie Kloecker, Selena Carlson, Dupe Oyebolu, and Ariana Nedelman.

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